Starting a blog.
A short phrase that sounds simple, but it turns out it’s actually like learning a new language. For those who don’t know me, I have a full time job, a part time job, a husband, a one-year-old daughter, a dog, and a fixer upper home. So naturally, it seemed like the perfect time to throw a blog into the mix and add to my always growing list of duties because I’m really not that busy and have a ton of down time (Did I mention I’m sarcastic?).
Alright, so the real scoop on how this blog idea came about all comes down to one thing: freaking parenthood.
Babies, y’all! They are SO cute, tiny, hilarious, squishy, and special! Holding and snuggling one that belongs to you just warms your heart and it is truly an indescribable feeling. You are faced with all of these new feelings, responsibilities, and fears that you had only heard of before in theory. You maybe even thought you understood them. But then that baby was born or adopted or however he/she came into your life, and your world was turned completely upside down. Children will change your life (duh, Tanya. Tell us something we don’t already know.). BUT they are also pretty scary, especially if you’ve never really cared for one for an extended amount of time before. And even if you have.
That’s right, I am a first time mom of a year and I still feel like I have no idea what I am doing. I regularly question every food choice, every product purchase, and every minute spent with my daughter. We’re all just doing our best not to raise serial killers, am I right? I’m just over here winging it every day, and I am here to tell you:
Google. Is. My. Friend.
And as a person in general, I have found myself showing Google a ridiculous amount of love. I am serious, I have asked my own mother on multiple occasions how she ever parented without this lovely little search engine! I wonder on a daily basis how people lived without the opportunity to ask a huge black hole of information questions about themselves or life. Because clearly this unpersonalized search engine can answer all of my major life questions. Just for fun, here are some questions I have actually asked Google:
- Why does my baby sound like she is purring like a cat?
- How to get my baby to sleep longer than 1.5 hours
- Can you make a baked potato in the microwave
- Does my husband even know how to do the dishes
Please note: that last one was a joke. I didn’t need to look up the answer (yes he knows how, but typically chooses not to. I said typically, Chris.).
But really. Life BG (before Google) must have been terrifying. Who did new parents consult with when their babies caught a cold for the first time? How were parents-to-be able to know which baby products were musthaves and which were overhyped? How in the world did anyone know how good their canned goods could be used past the “best by” date? And finally, how was any individual able to be sure that their cluster headache didn’t actually mean they had a small brain tumor?
Okay. So Google is not always a win.
What’s the point of all of this?
As a new mom, I was googling everything. All the time. If my daughter so much as looked at me funny or made a strange noise while sleeping, I was opening up the browser window on my phone to immediately type out, “Is it normal for a 2-month-old to…” Eventually, I came across super relatable blog posts about being a new mom and how demanding it is. These posts really caught my attention because they talked about the raw and honest things that some people and sources try to make sound like sunshine and rainbows. It felt so good to read these honest thoughts! About how the baby blues and postpartum depression are real, and that lots of people experience it (you are normal). About how more parents cosleep than they admit, and that it does not make you a bad parent (you are normal). About how switching from breastfeeding to formula feeding created a crazy amount of guilt, and that moms should feel confident in any way they choose to feed their baby because it is not a decision for anyone else to make or cast judgment upon (you are normal).
Everyone creates their own normal. Each decision should be respected as such. I was not alone anymore. I was freaking normal. And after reading multiple blog posts that had me laughing to myself and nodding in agreement regarding the new mom life, I thought to myself, “Hey. I could do this.”
I have always loved writing. And I never do it anymore. That realization made me sad. It was my strength through all of school. I felt like I could show other women, moms, and just parents in general that they are NORMAL. You, reading this right now, you are not a crazy person! And you got this!
Whether you are a mom or not, life is freaking BUSY! I have struggled to really take care of my family, my home, fulfill work commitments, and also take care of myself. The balancing act that is adulthood gets more and more complex with each passing day. Multiple times a week, I am having an internal freakout just trying to keep my head above water. I do not want to deter anyone who is not a MOM. Everyone is welcome here and I will be writing about more than just “mom stuff.” I have gone through feeling totally insecure as just a human being, and there will be something for everyone in this space. So if you have felt “not good enough,” enjoy laughing at mistakes, and want some inspiration and motivation to tackle all of the life things, then stick around.
And so here I am. Doling out my unsolicited wisdom to all. You’re welcome (just kidding).
Some things you can expect to see here:
- Soul discovery inspiration and thoughts
- Hilarious musings about first time mom life
- My journey from anxiety to finding peace
- Mistakes I’ve made so you don’t have to
- Holistic health and wellness practices that make me feel happy
I hope you will follow along and laugh with me as I discover my soul person and live my truth.
And Truthfully Tanya was born. Welcome.
Have you ever thought about starting a blog? Share what’s holding you back in the comments! I would love to hear from you.